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Married couples, are you considering placing your elderly parents in a nursing home when the time comes?

16 Comments Published by thoriynn December 26th, 2009 in Nursing


16 Responses to “Married couples, are you considering placing your elderly parents in a nursing home when the time comes?”  

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  1. 1 puppy Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    I HEAR SO MANY HORROR STORIES, MY STEP GRANDMA WAS IN ONE AND THE TREATMENT WAS HORRIBLE, NOT ONLY TO HER, BUT TO EVERYONE IN THERE THAT I SAW…NO WAY, NO ONE DESERVES THAT, THEY GROW OLD N SICK YES, BUT THEY DONT DESERVE TO LIVE THE YEARS THEY HAVE LEFT IN THOSE CONDITIONS…ITS NOT HUMANE

  2. 2 Jim Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    Nope i actually love my parents i will have home health care people come in

  3. 3 Tino {7}F U Haters Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    I only have my dad left. And I guarantee that if any of us kids think about doing that, he’ll fight us. He’s a scrappy old school mexican so he’s a bit of a stubborn burro.

  4. 4 Renaldo Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    Not a chance. Those places are expensive. I’m just planning on putting them on life support in a house with poor electrical wiring and old circuit breakers.

  5. 5 Big J v 5 Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    I’m trying to now, but they nursing home says they aren’t old enough yet.

  6. 6 Rachel Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    I hope I never have to! My parents are so sweet I worry that they would run off to go live in a cave if it came to us taking care of them. They don’t want to bother us. I’d have to hunt them down. I would want to care for them. I love them very much and I wouldn’t want them to not receive the care the need and deserve. They would do the same for me. I realize that it’s a lot of very hard work, but I love them, and that’s enough for me.

  7. 7 mischiefsw Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    My guys parents are dead and my mother is crazier than a bed bug! So yes, cuz she sure as hell isn’t coming to live with me! LOL

  8. 8 Dorthy_Gail Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    No. I would love for her to come and live with us. She refuses so we have 24 hour senior help care come in. So far, its working out fine.

    I would have had my mom live with us but she died instead.

  9. 9 Cami Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    We actually just had put my husbands mother in one about a year ago. We always said we never would do this. But she has Alzheimer’s and was wondering into the streets in the middle of the night and becoming violent. Since we have small children our hands were sort of tied. It has nothing to do with loving them to the smart ass who said that.. If you do love your parents then you will do whatever you can to keep them safe and in good health.

  10. 10 Ghost Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    Nope. They didn’t put me in a home when I was pooping myself uncontrollably and drooling all over the place, so why should I do that to them?

  11. 11 letterstoheather Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    I was already through this experience with my mother. She lived in another state, and i went and took care of her for about 1-1/2 years, while continuing to rent a house and pay all the utilities, etc.

    The truth is, i should have taken my mother to my house and gotten her treatment there. She had pancreatic cancer, and as you may know, no one survives that sort of cancer.

    I have two sisters which were of no help at all. (this is quite common)

    Even so, i went through my retirement, all my savings taking care of Mom. I don’t regret giving her care. But i didn’t know what was in the cards for my future. I thought i could simply go back to work and replenish my retirement.

    As it happened, i was in a serious accident, lost virtually everything i owned after Mom died — i had to sell my antiques and many sentimental items just to survive. I am currently receiving social security disability, and it’s just enough to live on every month. No savings, nothing extra. Sometimes i have a hard time deciding whether to buy toilet paper or paper towels for the month.

    I’m not a materialistic person, and never collected a lot of "stuff", but there were certain things i had all my life, which are now gone.

    If i had it to do over again, i’d still have provided good care for Mom, but i’d have done it differently.

    It’s difficult to plan for these things, but i think that the way i went about it cost me way too much money in the long run. If i’d had taken mom to my home (she wouldn’t have been happy), things may have worked out better for me.

    We have to think of our own lives, too.

  12. 12 bandaid_46 Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    When the time comes, I will spare my kids the guilt and put myself in assisted living. I have LTC insurance just for that.

    I know some nursing homes are the pits, but my mom, who had dementia, lived in one that was very nice. My aunt lives in assisted living and they treat her better than her own family. You couldn’t pry her out of there with dynamite. She’s having a ball.

  13. 13 T. Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    Del Boca Vista here we come!

  14. 14 Valerie X Account #23!!!WhooHoo! Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    My father passed when I was 20.

    My mother in law is Hispanic, no way would putting her in a home be acceptable. Family takes care of family.

    My mother and father in law? No way, couldn’t do it. Luckily there are enough of of "kids" to make caring for our aging parents work for all involved…..

  15. 15 Emma Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    Never!

  16. 16 S. Dec 26th, 2009 at 4:48 am

    ARE YOU STUPID??!

    i’D NEVER DO THAT …

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